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    I really hope it works out for you. Maybe offer to demonstrate the security of the enclosure by how it locks and how its solid/secure. I know they dont like Satin so have your bf hold her in a completely different room while you show them everything. Also if it comes down to it ask them what their real fears/reasons are for not wanting it? "what ifs" are certainly understandable but i mean what if you give up your snake and move back in and one of your dogs goes psycho and rips your throat out in the middle of the night lol? I mean i just personally dont think that their reasoning has been all that logical so far. I guess im kinda bias on the whole thing but whatever.
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    Re: How would you handle this?

    It sounds like your parents know the general facts about boas, and you aren't completely backed into a financial corner, so there isn't any reason the situation has to get unpleasant on either side. Reaffirm to them about your locking enclosure, how it (and the snake) will be in your room (door closed) only at all times, and even offer to get something like the "twin draft guard" to block the gap under your bedroom door. Assure them that the arrangement is only for "x" amount of time. If they are too uncomfortable, THANK THEM for considering it, and find another place. Even if they don't change their minds at that surprise , it's the right route to keeping it an adult conversation. I don't think you need to try to get them to touch her or be around her - that will or won't happen in its own time. When I went to live with my adoptive parents, they let me bring my 5-ft boa. At the time, mom wouldn't be in the same room with him; now, I do genetics lessons for her elementary school students with my BPs every year. Will she ever be a snake person? No. But she understands through repeated experience that they are a passion of mine, and respects that.

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    I could never give up my snakes .

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    Well, judging by how my dad was talking to me today, I highly doubt they're gonna let me move back in anyway. So I guess problem solved? :/
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    Re: How would you handle this?

    Sorry it looks that way.

    Hope you find something that will work for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xFenrir View Post
    Well, judging by how my dad was talking to me today, I highly doubt they're gonna let me move back in anyway. So I guess problem solved? :/
    Time to embrace your inner stubborness haha
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    Well my dad called me the other day and said that my mom wanted to let me know that she wants me to be registered for classes before I move back in. He said nothing about Satin though, so now I'm thoroughly confused. Gonna wait it out a little longer though, before getting my hopes up for anything.
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    Hope things work out for you, and that you can keep your baby!

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    I had a friend in a similar situation, except her bf went to jail and left her with a Burm a Few boas. Her parents were adamant that the snakes did not come with her. I fostered them for almost 2 years. The Burm had his own room in my house and well he was my best friend, only because he knew he could eat me lol. She visited and payed for everything they needed.

    Maybe if you have to you could find someone to foster him until you are back on your feet.


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    Re: How would you handle this?

    Tough situation! I'm sure the snake being named SATAN doesn't help! LOL(pickin at ya!)

    I really don't know how a lot of young people scratch by these days. Even the ones working full time. Prices on housing, fuel, you name it, are rediculous these days.

    Best of luck with your parents. They really do want the best for you!

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