My day to freak out...

[Vasiliki]

4Ballz: Thank you so much for your perspective. I can’t tell you what it means that I’m getting to hear stories from the other side of the fence. You’re giving me lots to think about, and feeling more comfortable about my position in our relationship. When I do think about it, I have never once hesitated to help my boyfriend out if he needed money. Such as if his debit card wasn’t working or something happened with getting his paycheck from work. So it’s only logical that if I feel that way, you’re right… He’s probably just as willing as I have been in the past when it came to financial stuff.

Chet1028: That is something that’s very valuable, and I can see how the ‘our’ money would work. I admit, I’ve been burned in the past from an ex when it came to a shared bank account, so part of me was hesitant about it. Back then, I made more than him, and our bank account was constantly getting close to 0. When I sat down and did the calculations one day, I realized he was spending 80% of the income on things for himself. When we finally did break up, he took everything from my bank account. Naturally, the man I’m with now is nothing like that scumbag, so I’m not worried about it happening again. But part of me still associates the idea of a shared account to something that’s negative or something to be afraid of. But your point of view makes more sense, and makes me want to try something new. Maybe it will actually help my anxiety on the topic of finances, or at least allow me to relax and rely on my other half a little bit more.

Honestly… I can’t thank you guys enough for taking a moment to post here. It’s been more of a help than I can really say, actually.