Yes. We have a shared bank account. We just never really look at it as my money vs her money. Whatever is in the bank is what we have to spend. Neither of us are big spenders so it is really never an issue. The funny money hasn't been an issue either because she waitresses so she always has some tip money to blow. And I work in sales and get small gift cards and Amex checks periodically which I use as my funny money. My thought is that I never wanted money to be an issue so I wanted to remove the concept of mine vs hers. We both work hard to provide for each other and our kids. Who makes more money is never a topic of consideration or conflict. We also have a rule that any purchase over $100 needs to be discussed. It's not as if we need the other persons permission, we just want to make sure that priorities are paid before other things. I would bet that your BF has the same perspective that I do and he would feel bad that you are unnecessarily stressing about this on your own. That's what a partnership is. When you need help, comfort or just someone to listen you owe it to your BF to let him be there for you.
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