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    How do you get through ambivalence?

    I'm paralyzed by ambivalence, concerning a particular aspect of my life. I objectively know what I need to do, but emotionally I'm a mess. It's just been one of those months.. couple of months.. whatever. I've never had an issue with being objective in my personal life and making hard decisions before, but apparently I've never been so emotionally wrapped up, and can't seem to fully commit one way or the other.

    When you're facing a particularly difficult situation, how do you get through it? How do you go through with a decision, knowing it's going to be excrutiating? I think I'm just a little to codependent, and I'm afraid of the fall out.

    Maybe it's time to renew my prozac prescription

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    I find that talking to people I trust can really help make a hard decision easier. Most hard decisions have a clear "right" answer and your friends will often unanimously agree on the right answer.

    Whatever your problem may be, talking about it really does help.
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    Flip a coin. the outcome doesn't matter, in that split second that it's in the air you will know what side you are hoping lands face up.

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    I think I just don't want to deal with everything that follows. But I think it has to be done. Ugh.

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    Re: How do you get through ambivalence?

    Quote Originally Posted by Anatopism View Post
    I think I just don't want to deal with everything that follows. But I think it has to be done. Ugh.
    That part is really hard, but if you will be better off for it then the hard part will eventually end.
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    Well, boyfriend and I broke up last night. Still doing the snake stuff together for the time being, but this all happened around 2 AM last night, so haven't had any time to really get through the rest of the details. Struggling physically just to stay awake. My eyes burn a bit.

    I'm a little relieved i'm at least not stuck in limbo anymore, but obviously a bit sad at the same time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anatopism View Post
    Well, boyfriend and I broke up last night. Still doing the snake stuff together for the time being, but this all happened around 2 AM last night, so haven't had any time to really get through the rest of the details. Struggling physically just to stay awake. My eyes burn a bit.

    I'm a little relieved i'm at least not stuck in limbo anymore, but obviously a bit sad at the same time.
    Sorry to hear that. Ending a relationship is always a struggle.

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    Prayer will get one through any tough times! Remember that God will never give you more than he knows you can handle.


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    Ending a relationship is never easy, especially when you're to the point where it feels like the fallout will be more difficult than just continuing. I'm so sorry that it'll be difficult for a little while, or even a long one, but it -will- be better in the end (at least it sounds like it was something that needed to happen). We'll be here, take some time to mend yourself and vent if you need to

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    Re: How do you get through ambivalence?

    Ouch! Yeah, it sucks going through the pain of a breakup. Just know that in the long run, you're saving yourself more heartache and more years of ambivalence. And IDK if you were joking about going back on Prozac, but if there's ever a time for it, this is probably it. I'm a Wellbutrin achiever myself It can really help when life is more difficult than usual (or in my case, all the time).

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