Until you are more comfortable, make sure you are always sitting down when you handle him. This way, if he startles you (or vice versa) and you jump, he falls into your lap instead of all the way to the floor. Just start out easy, and "fake it til you make it." If you start getting too nervous, just hand him gently to your husband, and add a few more minutes on next week. One bonus to BPs is that they don't get "mean" when they aren't handled often, which means you don't have to push it or yourself any faster than you are comfortable with. It also might help to him him handle him for a few minutes first sitting beside you, and see if your curiosity helps you overcome your fear, too! By the way, a butter ghost is a fantastic choice. They're sooo gorgeous!