There's no need for me to reveal who has been sending me private messages and apologizing for you. I'm sure they don't want to be berated too.

Anyone who knows me would attest that I'm always the first to admit when I'm wrong and so I will apologize for not explaining my intents more clearly. I never had this kind of trouble on a message board in my life (and I have been a member of many) so I went back and re-read every post and response I ever made on this board and I can see how things I said/typed may have been misinterpreted by others. I can't control how others choose to interpret what I write, but I will take responsibility for leaving room for interpretation.

The first place I see tempers flaring is when I said I was going back to the herp store and taking my snakes so they could see them and recommend prey size for me. I can see how to the people who had already said "feed them adult mice", this would have come across as a bit of an insult.

I have an analytical mind. It's what I do for a living. I can't change that. My trane of thought was that nobody here knew what her size was (weight or length or girth) so how could I trust with 100% certainty that I could take your word for it and feed my snake an adult mouse? I needed someone to eyeball the female and confirm what I was being told here. That was never meant to be an insult to your experience or knowledge. It is simply what I needed to do to be sure I was about to do the right thing. For Manasha, it wasn't, and I'm glad I never tried to give her an adult mouse. The vet said as much yesterday. She is just too small.

So everything seemed to go downhill after that and I wasn't sure why. Well, I think the above was the reason.

When I say things like "I thought I could trust the herp guy", that doesn't mean that I *still* trust the herp guy. That past tense (thought) means I no longer trust the herp guy. Maybe some people were looking for me to say "it's been done and here's a picture". But instead I said something more along the lines of "they're in the tank together for now, I'm waiting for the plexiglass to arrive". But that's not fast enough action for people who know I could just drive to Walmart and pick up a plastic tub.

In my mind, they can continue to live together for the 2 weeks it would take me to seperate them with acrylic instead of a plastic grill. Btw, it's not cardboard it's the plastic stuff you use to cover an overhead fluorescent light. Plastic but not solid.

I want to keep them in a glass/wood vivarium, not a plastic tub. So I'm focusing on making that happen, not spending money on a plastic bin and heating that I will stop using in 2 weeks.

I don't mind spending money on my pets for what they need including vet care, but I'm really not a fan of throwing it away either. To my buying plastic bins and heating while also spending money on an acrylic panel and UTH heating for the 75 is wasteful.

You may not agree, but it really is wrong when you punish someone for not doing exactly as you say at the pace you feel they should do it. I didn't explain all the circumstances surrounding my actions because I didn't think anyone needed to be bothered with it. Then when I did, start writing about everything else going on including my job, how it's between my house and the vets, my kids and how I was lugging them around yesterday, I'm told that I keep bringing up my personal life. Maybe I should have explained why I was bringing it all up?? I don't know anymore.

I'm taking the time to type this up for two reasons. #1) to try to make sense of all this because it just doesn't compute, and #2) I'm on a long and boring road trip at the moment and bored to death!!












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