Any childfree by choice?

[Rob]

Im a guy and dont want kids. Ive said it for awhile but im only 19 )

Lol trust me your 19 you are not the same person you will be in just a few years.

[DooLittle]

I couldn't imagine life without my daughter. I always knew a wanted kids. She is my world. Yes, they are expensive, it to me is well worth every penny. I do know that having kids just isn't for everyone, and rightfully so. If you can't devote 100% of yourself to them, you shouldn't have them. Like everyone else has said, you see kids that are neglected, or mistreated. Those are the people that should have thought about it first. So, no, its not for everybody. I don't think its wierd that you don't want them, some people just don't. Me personally, just couldn't imagine life without mine. . If I didn't I would never be here having this discussion, she's the one who convinced me to get the first snake....
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[Wiggy]

I'm a guy and have no desire for kids.

I've also encountered people who couldn't believe it, and even people who insisted I was wrong and didn't know what I wanted.

To be honest, I've sometimes wondered if the people who are most opposed to the idea aren't just overreacting to hide from the truth that sometimes they regret having kids...

[Rorschach]

I am 26, married and do not have children. Nor do I/we plan on having any. We've talked about it... sorta. It is too expensive and I don't make nearly enough money. Until we can live the life we want to live, kids are out of the question.

I think times are just different from when my parents had kids. It seemed easier back then.

[Jazi]

Jazi I hope you get to adopt a few kids someday. There are so many that need thoughtful parents! I used to work with some foster kids, some were only infants even, used to break my heart to see them going through the system over & over.

:3 Thanks.

My dad spent a lot of time in the foster system when he was a kid, so many bad stories come from that and his treatment by his father beforehand. When my cousin found herself removed from her mom, he said he'd never let any family of his go through what he did and my parents adopted her as my sister. I'd like to do the same... I know some foster parents are great, but I've heard way too many stories of older kids just bouncing around in the system because everyone wants babies and young kids :\

[Stewart_Reptiles]

I am 39 married I do not have any children and this is purely by choice.

I have worked with children for over 10 years and know I have made a difference in some of those children's life and to me that is enough, I would not feel more accomplished if I had children of my own and I do not feel any void in my life.

Not everyone wish to have children (nothing wrong with that) and in some cases not everyone should have children either , and you should certainly not have children because of peer pressure or because others try to make you feel inadequate.

[Valentine Pirate]

I know right now having a child wouldn't be a good choice, so I really just don't think about it. My boyfriend already has 2 children, and the only reason I can see myself deciding to have one in the future is if an accident happens (I'm pro choice, but wouldn't chose to terminate it myself) or if I get into a financially stable situation where I can pursue my hobbies and passions as well as afford to provide a good life. It's a very serious matter to me since I had 3 siblings after I was born, and it's unsure whether or not my brothers will have the same resources as I do when they get to college age, and that scares me a little (well, a lot). I'll admit that the idea of having children really appeals to me, and my boyfriend is a fantastic father, which is something I hadn't thought I'd find either. For now, I have faith in my birth control and trust that if the opportunity arises and I'm still in the same mindset (being 21 I figure things will still shift and change a bit) that things will happen as they should.

[Raptor]

I don't plan to ever have kids. I can't stand them, to be honest. Due to where I live, I've gotten a lot of flack for it. One woman out right threatened to punch me when I said that I find babies to be ugly. Another guy couldn't understand why I "[didn't] want to spread [my] genetics".

I also hate it when people say "You're young, you'll change your mind", people don't know what goes on in my mind, and need to stop acting like they do. I had this view when I was 13. I had it when I was 17. I had it when I was 21, and I still have it today. It's not going away.

[Mike41793]

Lol trust me your 19 you are not the same person you will be in just a few years.

I never said i wouldnt want kids. Im willing to adopt or marry someone with older kids. But i cant see myself having to take care of a baby. Being forced to help take care of my step-siblings when they were babies pretty much ruined that for me lol...

[Dracoluna]

I'm nearly 30 and still don't have any children which has been a personal choice. Do we want kids? Yes, but only one. Can we afford to give them the life we would want to? Not right now so we choose not to have one. It's like me wanting a horse. I can't afford it so no matter how much I want one, I will not get it. My husband and I both get asked regularly why we don't have kids yet and it gets old fast. I see coworkers who live off the state and get evicted because they have to provide food for their children. My brother-in-law has declared bankruptcy twice now because he can't afford the kids he had and now they had a third. My sister knows that if her husband loses his job, they'll be moving in with me and my husband, taking over the snake room. The idea of being that financially unstable scares the heck out of me. My husband and I have also talked about possibly adopting an older child if we decide to have kids later in life. There are so many options these days and like someone else mentioned, kids are a lot like pets in that many people have them who can't afford/shouldn't have them. The problem is, you can't just put your kid up on Craigslist when you get tired of it or can't afford it any longer. We aren't willing to put ourselves in either situation where we'd be starving/out on the street or losing the child. It's not worth the risk.