We are - he never wanted kids and I know I'd be a high risk pregnancy. Now, I'll admit there was about a year in my early 20s that I entertained the idea of kids, but I just couldn't see it happening financially and it didn't hurt that I raised my special needs little brother - I felt burnt out on child-raising before I hit 18.
Even without all the other reasons, I find I don't get along well with a lot people who have kids. Today's accepted style of parenting is very far from what I'd let my kid get away with. My man and I talk about it every time we go out with my dear friends and their (now) 15 year old. She's got to have at least 3 electronic devices going - even if we are out to a "special/expensive" dinner. If she were my kid and couldn't leave them at home, they'd be locked up in the safe... and don't get me started about younger kids! If my special needs brother could be taught to never throw a tantrum in public - well, let's just say I have no patience for it.
The only concern I'd have for you is the procedure you choose. There are a few options out there I hear are less surgically invasive, but has been and remains easier to permanently fix males - it can be done in a pretty quick clinic visit. I only hope you find a safe solution if you do go down that path.
I'm kinda surprised you're finding the guys are shocked. Two of my male friends had the procedure done when they were about 25 or so. Neither were in relationships, but both felt it was the best choice for them and wanted to make sure there weren't any "accidents." I know that sounds horrible to some, but it was their way of being responsible and they knew they didn't want kids. I dunno, just throwing my
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