Will to live is a powerful thing with those who are up in age and in failing health. Independance is something noone wants taken away. My grandmother lost my grandfather in 1976. Since then she did everything for herself. She was a very independant woman. One of her biggest joys in life besides her kids and us grandkids was pkaying golf. She loved it. She played pretty much every day. One day she went to the docs and they said she had diabetes. About a month later she had 2 toes amputated. About 2 months after they had to take the leg from the knee down. Other then that she was in great health but once the ability for her to pkay golf was taken away she totally lost the will to live. She passed about 6 weeks later from what doctors said was depression and lack of will to live. There was no medical reason other then that they could give. You will never win the battle to convince an aging person they cant do something. Watching loved ones health fail is the worst. I feel for ya