People basically suck( everyone here excluded) how many times have you seen people self destruct . They know they need help but refuse to take it. It's like cutting off your nose to spite your face. The best we can do is make suggestions and hope they listen. Like on of my favorite quotes from a movie ( you need a license to catch a fish but any bu$& rea#&*? As@#&%? can be a father) same for pets.