I'm twenty, and my little sister is about to turn thirteen. My parents separated about a year and a half ago and the divorce is still processing. ( My dad is an accountant and their are a lot of financials to work out. )
The first thing I can suggest is to let yourself feel it. It sounds simple, but many of us find quick relief in bottling. Let yourself experience it and then take a breath. This is what life is... learning and growing. Though it's painful, we always seem to grow into ourselves the most out of our toughest endeavors.
Try not to focus on blame, or what went wrong and where. We all change and sometimes our changes are incompatible. Guilt and spite are very real and so is the pain, but it will fade. Remember that every morning the sun will come up and the earth will still evolve and grow, just like we do.
That helps me a lot if the stress gets to be a little much in life - I just go sit outside and breathe or look for four leaf clovers. (I've found quite a few now... I'll pick one with you in mind. (: )
Getting away will help a lot, but I agree with Dracoluna. Taking care of one or two of the ones closest to your heart could prove pretty therapeutic to you.
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