Divorce Survival?

[Skittles1101]

I am divorced as well, however it was not mutually agreed upon. My ex was very abusive and I stayed with him as long as possible because we have our son together. It took me a long time to realize that I'm not doing my son any good by staying, so I finally left him. Luckily, I have a pretty steady job otherwise I probably would have been scared to leave even longer.

At first, even with as bad as it was, I still felt those feelings you do. I remember crying to my mom that I missed him (which, if you knew him.... you'd think I was crazy), but I was at the time. Emotions aren't rational, so if you're trying to think rationally and emotions are high, you're probably not thinking as rationally as you think. It's funny how the brain works.

Either way, the only thing that helps is time. Being away from him may make it easier. If you're sure it's what you want then just stay strong and fight any feelings of regret. It may help to see a therapist when you get back to Utah to help you find other ways to cope. It helped me at the time, even though I hated him I still couldn't help the feelings. Just hang in there, it's not easy no matter how long you've been together. Go with your gut, not your feelings. If you go with your feelings you may just be prolonging the inevitable.