I have ordered a probing kit from Reptile Basics and it will be here in 2-4 days. I want to be damn sure of the sex before I decide what to do. I've had some people tell me to just sell the male and get an adult female, keep the pastel. But he/she is my first snake and you only get your first snake once. Personally I would much rather just go buy an adult female and make room than to get rid of one that I love.