1. I do, lol. Also, Larry Suttles has nice lavenders and I'm sure there are others.
2. In my experience females get nicer then males. When I say nicer I mean more lavender. When looking at hatchlings it's tough to say how they turn out. Most are very similar but after a few sheds I would look for ones where the white looks greyish, or purplish if you use your imagination.
I hope that helps.
Lavender spiders...
Picture of a lavender yearling+ male...
Bad picture of a lavender yearling+ female...
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