The jumping up when excited thing will take some time to work through. Again, consistency is key. So when your husband comes home, have him ignore her. Walk through the door and don't make eye contact. When she's better at "sit", have her sit as soon as you walk through the door. If your not excited, it'll keep her from getting excited. Make a routine, so she knows what to expect.

For example, here is my routine for when I come home. I walk through the door and if I speak to the dogs, its in a soft, soothing voice. I let them out of their crates and let them outside. They do their business and we may throw the ball around to get that pent up energy out. Then we head back in. They have to sit at the door and wait to be invited in. I tell them to come in and by that time they've pretty much settled down.

As for the food aggression thing and taking food away from her... It works in certain situations with certain dogs. Both of my dogs have a happy past. No problems with abuse, etc. So we practiced sitting for food/toys and having me take away food/toys. So when its time to put up the toys or rawhide or what ever, I have no problems from removing the item from their mouth. So far, she's shown no issues with food. As she gets more comfortable with you, she may see how far she can push you. In this situation, I would put my hand near the bowl, in her bowl, or hold the bowl while she eats and then treat for good behavior. Same with toys. Then, when you've become a more established "alpha", practice gently taking toys away from her and treating for good behavior.

There was something else I was going to mention, but now I've forgotten... Maybe after the baby goes to bed I'll remember.