Need some advice...

[CatandDiallo]

I would REALLY find it hard to just "let go of".

I have a very similar experience with one of my best friends from high school (we did EVERYTHING together, we even ran off and backpacked Europe together right after prom).

We had a group of really really close friends. 5 of us girls, and 1 guy. After high school, she moved to Montreal to go to University. We all thought we were going to be seeing her all the time, Montreal is only a 5-ish hour drive! Yeah, no.
She gradually distanced herself more and more from us, always making excuses of "work" and "busy" to come visit us, or we, her.
She's come a couple of times, once for her birthday a couple years ago and she brought her boyfriend with her. He seems nice (keep in mind that he isn't a Canadian citizen).
They move in together, really fast.

Early this summer, I saw all these "congratulations" on her Facebook wall. Hmm. Strange.
My friend and I were shopping at the mall and I mention this to her. We decided to text Montreal girl and ask her how things were going with her and her "boyfriend". She said things were going well and she was very happy.
We joked about her getting married. She responded with something like this: "Actually, we got married last month. He didn't propose to me, we just had a conversation and decided it was the best thing. I have my mother's wedding ring. We got married in a Mosque with a very few amount of people in it."

.... .

Whaaaaaat?

It's not that she didn't invite us (small weird mosque wedding with only family - fine), she didn't TELL US. We had to FISH it out of her!

Sigh. We confronted her about not telling us, and yadda yadda. Since she is one of our "best friends" she didn't get angry with us. She understood where we were coming from and did her best to try to explain the situation to us (even though we think she isn't tell us the full truth).
She came back to Toronto recently, in full neck-to-toe dress (neck covered with scarves, and only very baggy shirts, pants/skirts) and told us that she had fasted for Ramadan. So very strange, a little (previously hard-core Athiest) French-Canadian girl turned Muslim! Oh, okay! Fine! (Nothing against Islam, it's just weird seeing one of your best friends do a complete 180).

She told us that she got married because he turned extremely religious, and wouldn't touch her, kiss her or sleep in the same bed as her anymore.

Remember how I mentioned he wasn't a Canadian citizen? Ahhh, yeah, that's what we think too.


ANYWAYS. I would talk to her about it. And I agree that it is how she responds that dictates whether or not you should be friends anymore.
We are still friends with Montreal girl, although we're quite certain she's going to disappear for good, soon.

Best friends shouldn't get mad at you for the confrontation.

Good luck.