When good intentions go wrong.

[MasonC2K]

Love is patient. And so is finding it.

No one should ever be forced or otherwise coerced into a relationship. If we are meant to have a mate, it will happen in God's time, not ours. I was 28 when I got married. I was beginning to wonder if I'd ever get married. But I decided to focus on the important things that were in my life and next thing you know it just happened out of the blue.

So be patient and keep strong and don't let anyone rush you into anything.

[Egapal]

Love is patient. And so is finding it.

No one should ever be forced or otherwise coerced into a relationship. If we are meant to have a mate, it will happen in God's time, not ours. I was 28 when I got married. I was beginning to wonder if I'd ever get married. But I decided to focus on the important things that were in my life and next thing you know it just happened out of the blue.

So be patient and keep strong and don't let anyone rush you into anything.

lol

[Wh00h0069]

I am a single man, because I choose to be. The same thing happens to me quite often. I have dated many women, and had many girlfriend, but I have choosen to be single while going through school. I work and go to school, both full time. I really just don't have time for a relationship.

I also do not want any children, and never have. Some of my relationships have ended for this very reason. People think that I am being selfish, but I do not know why they feel that I should want children, and I don't understand why that is selfish.

I beleive the reason that people try to push relationships on other people is because society dictates that people are supposed to get married and have children, or they may not understand how someone can be happy while not in a relationship. I do not need a relationship to make me happy.

[SilverDemon]

I do not need a relationship to make me happy.

This quote basically sums up the entire situation on my end. And for those needing clarification, I meant that I don't want a mate. The main issue I took with the 'You need a man in your life' wasn't the automatically assuming I'm straight, it's the implications that a woman's only worth is if she can find a man to take care of her.

As an independant woman who works 12 hour overnight shifts at a job and spent about 5 years in the military, this makes my blood BOIL.

And trust me, I've told the more insistant ones (the worst is one of my coworkers) repeatedly that while I appreciate their concern, I am perfectly happy with my life and I do not need or want their help.

I have recieved a reply that "Oh, you may think that now, but when we find you the perfect guy you'll change your mind." Again, I find this increadibly insulting (and have told them that), and that this point it's getting to where, in addition to other factors, it's prompted me to start looking for another line of work.

[CoolioTiffany]

Tell them you're a lesbian! May get them off your back

LMFAO!!!

To the OP: Man, I would find all of that quite obnoxious. It is truly your decision to do whatever you want, you are a grown adult running your own life. I find it quite odd how nearly everyone is telling you to get into a relationship. It's understandable that you wouldn't want kids, I've decided this as well and I'm only 16 LMAO. Plus I'm sure you aren't looking forward to the stresses (not saying that there aren't any joys) of relationships because those can get a bit intense, especially with drama. Just blow 'em all of, ignore their comments and actions. They don't need to be telling you what you need to do . If you are happy with what you've got going on now then there should be absolutely NO problem with that . I hope this situation calms down for you as well.

[Toxic Tessa]

I agree with everything Wh00h0069 and SilverDemon said.

I am currently in your situation as well - and it drives me insane. I am at a point in my life where I do not want to be with anybody. I LOVE being alone, and I like only having to focus on my goals in life. What irks me the most is when my friends and co-workers tell me that I need a man to support and take care of me. I am 23, work two full time jobs and am supporting myself through medical school without loanss. I think I'm doing pretty well for somebody that "needs" a man to take care of her.

Only you know what's best for you. If you want to be single, stay single. Some people just need to learn that it is very impolite to meddle in the affairs of others.

[mechnut450]

I know the feeling Silverdemon. I was nagged and told for years to get rid of the dnakes and get a girlfriend, and No that T am dating 4thesnakelady they all like get rid of girlfriend and snakes ( cause we both have them and enjoy them ) and find a girlfriend closer to home ( mainly cause I am the main man of the House for my mother, grandmother, aunt and one cousin.) I the one that they all call to fix stuff, take them somewere if their vechile broken down ( in aunt and cousin case ) and I spend a lot of time running my grandmother and mom to doc appointments both of them are uncomfortable with driving now.

but both 4thesnakelady and I agree no kids ( due to several reasons) and are already talknig possible marriage. But we both agreed when we first met it was a no strings attached event, and now we both are sadden when I have to come back to lower DE for anything.

[SilverDemon]

Thanks for all the support everyone. I'm being a stubborn mule about the situation and refusing to go along with anything they try (you'd think they would understand that I'm serious just from that alone). I just needed a place to rant because my mom and stepdad, who had previously been all cool with me being totally disinterested in finding a mate and all that, have joined in.

You'd think that after the WONDERFUL displays of judgement my sisters have shown /sarcasm, that they wouldn't be trying to push me into anything (long story there, just know that one of those judgement displays is the reason I am currently helping my parents raise two of my nephews).

It does offend me that they think they know my own mind better than I do, and every single well-thought out arguement I give as to why I am happy the way I am is met with "Oh, you'll change your mind, everyone does." *headdesk* I love my family, I really do, but seriously? They think I would be happy 'settling down and keeping house for a man'?

I've already warned them that if they keep this up, I'm totally going to turn into a crazy old lady who keeps a bunch of cats and snakes. And dogs. (All in good conditions, of course).

[wolfy-hound]

Hey, I resemble that remark! I'm the crazy snake lady(along with the monitors, dogs, rats etc...).

The one fun thing I got to do to family when they were harping at me about having kids and I kept telling them "No, *hubby* and I are not having any kids..." was I got perturbed and blurted out "No, we're NOT going to change our minds, he's been neutered!"

Pin drop. Absolute silence. He's standing 3 feet away and looks over at my aunt whos all agast and says "Yep, got snipped ten years ago." in the most casual tone ever.

I miss him.

[SilverDemon]

I never said that being the crazy animal lady was a BAD thing (my dream is to have a small ranch with horses, dogs, cats, snakes, and a rat feeder colony. No cows, though, I'm scared of cows).

And Best. Response. Ever.

I'm sorry about your husband, though. It seems like you two really fit together well.