Quote Originally Posted by AtlasStrike View Post
Okay, I have to say something, and I hope that no one takes offence, but having been a 16 year old girl, I think this is an extremely relevant point. This girl SAYS a lot of things about her mother, her life, her relationships with you and with others. Here is the thing though, in person, you have only met her once. You have no way of knowing whether or not those things are true. I am not calling your girl a liar, but long distance relationships not based in real experience are often an outlet for fantasy. This girl may very well genuinely like you, but she also might just like the attention and knowing that there is some one who can always give it to her. She is, no matter what you feel, still a child.

When I was 15, my "boyfriend" was 23. I though I was soooo cool then. Now, I think he's a creep. There is absolutely no legitimate reason that a grown man should have had that kind of interest in what was essentially a child, no matter how much I wanted to be or thought I was mature. To be fair, at 16 I held a steady job, went to school and took care of my little brother and sister, but the way that I thought about situations and my life was dreadfully immature. I often cannot believe how much I've grown up since I thought I was full grown. The age difference in a "real life" relationship could very well be circumstantial, but the age difference in a long distance relationship, especially with you as the elder partner is a little bit difficult to understand because there is no way of knowing if you actually know this girl at all.
If this girl wanted to get in touch with you, she would. She would call from a friends cell phone, or use gmail or skype which both allow free calls from any computer. If her mother's wishes are that you leave her alone, I believe you should do that especially if she herself is respecting those wishes. You are both constructing fantasies of one another, and without direct interaction there is no system of check and balances to keep those fantasies in line with reality. Often fantasy is better than reality, and a few years from now if you reconnect, you might not like what you find. My final note is a little depressing, but it is important. Sometimes love is not enough.
Please be open to life. Fixation and obsession are not healthy. Love only comes when you are honestly and truly happy within yourself, and that rarely if ever presents concurrently with adolescent relationships. Good luck.
Thank you. I respect your opinion and know that you know nothing about either me or her. I have no further comments for you. Have a good night. It's about time for me to feed my lovely lady. (Captain Hook)