http://ask.bmezine.com/2008/04/30/a-...-mod-industry/
There probably have been other similar questions posted and if that doesn't give you the desired answers you could submit your own question. I haven't been on bme in years so I don't know "how it works" anymore. Do they still have IAM? If so that's like Facebook for heavily modified people and they have groups and such and if I remember correctly at least one for "I want to be a piercer".