The entire relationship that you are currently engaging in is only encouraging both you and your girlfriend to be enablers. It doesn't matter what any of us sit here and take the time to type out for you to read because you are enabling her behavior by accepting it and even more so, by defending it.
It has been six months today since my sister committed suicide and I can say with absolute certainty that she was surrounded by people that were enablers. They accepted her behavior and defended it instead of trying to help her. They were not the cause of her suicide, so that is not what I am implying in any means, but you staying with her and playing into her issue does not help her because she feeds off of it. The more you continue to give in, the more she is going to continue to act the way she acts and sees no need for change. In some cases, tough love is necessary. You have to be the stronger person for both of you and take a few steps back. She is battling both learned behavior and a detrimental sickness, both of which you cannot fix.
And if you ever consider suicide again, please seek help and also please seek help for your girlfriend if she threatens you with it. A lot of times people do act like that for attention but unfortunately, we don't get to decide their fate, only they do. Please don't do what my sister did and leave people with questions that they will never be able to answer.
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