Get some heavier jewelry for your holes once they are healed up. Hematite is naturally pretty heavy. Once you get to around 0g, get some big hematite spirals and put them in. Your ears will be stretching in no time, without tapering.

And like the person up ^ mentioned, check out those sites. bodyartforms(dot)com is another awesome site for jewelry.

I love glass jewelry for stretching. Check out gorilla glass or glasswear studios as well. =)