Quote Originally Posted by fr3nchvanilla View Post
I know this response is a bit late, and it's good to hear your sister is home, but If I might say something? I too have a "cancerous" family- that is a great way to put it. And Although I always did my best I ended up being kicked out repeatedly after my 16th birthday and had 2 years where I was hoping from house to house. I know you said you don't want to see a consellor, but like yourself I am very very closed even with my live-in boyfriend of 5 years. But I saw a consellor and it has helped a ton! It also wouldn't be a bad idea to try and form a relationship with your sister if not witht he rest of your family. I am still trying to maintain at least a civil relationship with my family when I have to see them but have made it my priority to be in my siblings lives and I have definately prospered because of it. You obviously know your own family better than anyone else on here. But you do only have 1 family, make the most of it. I'm sure you could help your sister tons as it seems like you are a good person just trying to remove yourself from a bad situation so you can benefit yourself.

Good Luck! And I hope she does better!

Cheers.
Ive thought about trying to form/maintain a relationship with my sister, but at this point I think its doing more harm than good...on both ends. So as sorry as I am to say this, its going to have to wait. but as for the rest of my family, thats a differant story...forming a relationship is just...impossible. Ive gone through to much just to turn around and have it thrown in my face again.

Im sorry to hear about the way you were treated when you were younger as well, ( as you can tell ) I know how you feel. I do have to say that Im glad that you are able to be civil, as I cant, by their choice not mine.