I have a digital thermometer directly above the carpet that has the heating pad under it. By warm I mean when I put my hand on it, it feels warm. Like a warm towel. I have placed a thermometer on it and and it was only about 80 or so. Not to hot for the snake. Loves it and the basking light. Right now she is hide behind all the plants in a nice dark corner of the cage. She prefers that to her hide.
Based on a comment about my female I will be going and getting food tomorrow, she ate three days ago and he ate four days ago. I will try slightly larger prey this time.

I think by dividing the cage it will also help with my humidity problem. Since a large 4x2x2 is hard to heat and get proper moisture. Will keep everybody posted and thanks so much for all the help.

Please though somebody tell me how to tell if a snake is stressed.