so i waited another week to hold my baby pastel male. I got him on the 19th of well last month, he ate for me, first try on wed, then fri i tried picking him up but he hissed and puffed at me. So i took all of your advices and left him alone for another week, i fed him on wed, and he ate yet again f/t btw and today i was nervous but i really wanted to pick him up and have him start getting used to me, soo it took a few min to calm down and just do it, well i did and he didnt hiss at me, not once. So im proud that i actually picked him up and also proud he didnt hiss at me. ill post pics of him in the pictures section seeing last time he was in a lil ball and couldnt see much. Thanks again for the advice and reassurance.