Yeah my little Spider female is still jumpy even though she is handled a lot etc. Shes feisty and nothing wrong with that. Slow movements, handle him a little at a time and eventually he will get used to you. Plus once they get a little size on them they become more confident in themselves, and don't feel so vulnerable to everything. He is still learning his environment and is very vulnerable to everything so he is a bit scared and rightfully so. You just have to show him like said above you are not a monster to eat him and he is safe with you.