I'm not a therapist, although I have seen and benefited from more than one shrink in my life...
I would like to expand on the point that Judy made. The "magical relationship" cure doesn't exist.
I dated a guy with what I term as "the crazies" for a few months in college and it was one of the most terrible times in my life. His refusal to get help for his baggage and depression and force it onto me was what ended our relationship ultimately. He thought getting a girlfriend would "fix" everything too. It didn't. It brought out a lot of bad things in him, and while he was never physically abusive or threatening (...except for that one time) but being in a volatile relationship worsened things by tenfold.
Now.. I am absolutely NOT saying that you are or ever could be this kind of crazy/depressed/fill in whatever term you feel is appropriate, or this is what would or could happen to you in a relationship, BUT, you need to take care of you first. Relationships that last are built on trust, love and respect. If a partner (and this goes for any relationship to the hypothetical you and not the actual OP) can not trust their other half, there are few things that could make the relationship work in the long term.
I can go into more detail if you'd like, PM me, but I don't want to derail your topic with off topic blabber. If your therapist isn't working for you, find one that is. They are supposed to work with you and help you. If they aren't then they are making things worse.
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