Breaking Point

[Skittles1101]

I totally understand your stress level right now. My situation is a little different but same stress. I was in a horrible marriage to my son's father for 3 1/2 years, got divorced and jumped right into a serious relationship with a man from work. It wasn't the best idea and I won't get into details, but we just broke up almost 3 months ago, so I have literally been in a long term relationship since I was 17. I am also a single mom, and his father lives across the country so I do it all on my own, physically and financially. I have little to no friends even though I grew up here because when I got pregnant and had my son at 18, my "friends" deemed me "not cool" because I wouldn't go out and party all the time like they were. Any friends I have are from work, and even then I rarely see them. I'm single, full time mother, full time employee, part time school, and because of the "relationship" I was in before, I feel like I've been alone for the past two years. I am really lonely and stressed about everything.

My only advice to you would be to find things that make you happy. Clearly being on this site you love reptiles. I don't know what kind but honestly, as bad as this sounds my snakes are the only things that got me through my horrible and painful breakup. What hobbies do you like to do? Sometimes going to things alone can help you meet new people. I've met two people from this site alone in my area, and I consider then my friends. Try not to be so dependent in a relationship. I KNOW it's hard, in my case my mom was a single mom of 3 and worked a crappy job and always told us you need to find yourself, never depend on someone else to make you happy. As depressing as that sounds, she means it's up to YOU to make yourself happy. I have some serious anxiety when it comes to meeting new people, and it doesn't get any easier, but I think if you found hobbies for yourself and met people through that you will love it.

I hope you can get through this difficult time. It's hard feeling like you don't have anyone there for you. I go through it everyday. I take care of myself, my son, and my snakes. I don't reply on anyone to be there to pick up the slack. If nothing else, you have plenty of people on here I'm sure that would love to do something sometime with you. If I lived closer I'd be your friend Get out there and do things that make you happy, and the rest will follow.

Edit: I should also add that I am a 911 dispatcher, and my job stress level doesn't help all the outside stress lol.