It's not about doing something for the person who wronged you.
yeah cuz i definitely dont want to be doing HIM any favors!

because of the abuse at the hands of my daughter's father, as well as other relationships, it took me YEARS in this relationship with my current bf before i was able to start to trust that he would never hurt me. during that time i was always darn near jumping out of my skin when he'd so much as raise his voice and then i'd just if he yelled. i even flinched and braced for impact a few times during heated arguments fully expecting to be hit and he would be like "what the heck are you doing?!". he finally figured it out and although we've been together almost 9 yrs now i know he'll never put hands on me but i still get nervous when he gets angry, whether at me or not.
ok i gotta pause here. gotta run a quick errand. will finish this up when i get back...