Quote Originally Posted by mommanessy247 View Post
MAN i wish i knew how to put tidbits of sentences in my responses like you JLC...
Easy peasy. Just use the quote tags around the sentence you want to highlight. It will look like this when you type it out.

[quote]Copy the text you want to quote and paste it between these tags.[/quote]

There are a bunch of little buttons right above the text box that you type in. One of them looks like a little speech bubble. If you click on that, it puts the quote tags right there for you to use without you having to type them out...then you just insert your text between them. Or highlight the text then click the button and it will put the tags around the highlighted text.

There is also the "Reply with quote" button. If you click on that, it will bring up your text box with that whole post already quoted for you. And beside that is a smaller button with a + sign on it. That is the "multi-quote" button. If there are several posts you'd like to respond specifically to...you can click that button on each of them...then hit the regular "reply" button at the bottom...and all those quotes will be filled into your text box for you.

And now back to our regularly scheduled topic.....

nektu - i know i should forgive him too but i keep thinking that he doesnt even deserve THAT.
Here's my take on forgiveness...for what it's worth. Forgiveness isn't ever about being "deserved." It's not about doing something for the person who wronged you. It's about doing something for yourself. It's about letting go of the burden you place on yourself to somehow punish the one who wronged you. Whether they ever know you let go of it or not is irrelevant.

For instance...when I was in 8th grade, I went through a horrible year due to the actions of one girl who had once been one of my best friends. Her irrational and never-explained betrayal and hateful actions toward me ruined my life and colored my own self-perceptions for years and years afterwards. To this day, I sometimes struggle against those ancient voices, though they are finally very faint and much easier to blow away.

There came a time in my life, in college, when I was struggling to find peace amid the frantic chaos I'd spun myself into. I was praying for God to show me how to find that peace, to show me what was holding me back. She came to mind. I'd never forgiven her. I still held so much resentment and anger toward her for what she'd done. And at that moment, I released it. Rather than wanting bad things to happen to her, I prayed that God would touch her and help her to know Him. I prayed FOR her instead of ABOUT her. And the peace that came on me was profound. The burden lifted off my shoulders was tremendous!

It was NOT an easy thing to do...maybe kind of like holding on for dear life at the top of a massive bungee jump. You know it's safe...you know it will be thrilling...you know it'll all be over in a matter of moments. The "letting go" doesn't take even a heartbeat of time to happen...one moment you're holding on for dear life...and the next moment, you're falling into wonderfulness. But that choice to let go still has to be made...and it can be hard. It will be SOOOO very worth it when you do!!! I can't even begin to describe how amazingly blessed YOUR life will be when you do. Forget about him...you don't need to do it for him...you need to do it for you, and for your daughter.

I never told this girl I forgave her. Never saw or spoke to her again. And if I ever did encounter her again, I don't believe I would feel any pressure to tell her I forgave her. I'd be civil...maybe even friendly...because I truly don't wish any harm for her anymore. Doesn't mean I'd have to ever trust her again. Forgiveness isn't about trust, or rebuilding anything. It's not about bridges or communication. It's simply about the condition of your own heart.

Let go...and enjoy the ride!