it can be difficult when two people dont share a common reality on a particular passion. Thats why i could NOT be with someone who's either afraid of snakes or dislikes them. It would just cause too much strain on the relationship, in my opinion. Thats why im glad i have Terry. We can talk for hours and hours just about our snakes alone. And we gave a lot of reality together on the dealings and goings on regarding them, so we get along very well.