No, thats silly.
Females, at least in Blood and Short Tails have smaller pinkish/not so red hemipene looking tubular structures that look like males. Bloods and Short Tails often get mis-sexed due to this.
I would imagine the same type of thing could be happening here, where a female has larger than normal scent gland/hemipenal shaped tubes.
Have you ever heard of Parthenogenesis in females? Would you explain that as the female "playing for both sides"?
Does the OP have pictures of the 2 snakes locking up?