The core issue I see in this thread seems to be a trend in male vs. female reptile keepers. They just seem to have different ideologies on reptile care. The guys seem to want to get down to the science. Girls want to give benefit of the doubt to biology, and some of them seem to feel every creature on earth needs affection to survive.
At the center I really feel its nature v. nurture. Guys think thousands of years of primitive brain function leaves reptiles forever stuck in their ways (nature). Girls think love and hard work (nurture) can turn any animal into a great pet.
Note, this does not mean that either ideology is correct! Perhaps these two ideologies have no correlation to sex. I have simply noticed this trend in a few years of being in the hobby, maybe I should just do some more research, so to speak!
P.s.
Great looking monitor! I think you commented on a pic of my tegu once. I put plenty of work into "taming" her as a baby. She is very well behaved now, but tegus are known for being easy to work with. Still, sometimes her prehistoric brain shines through and all I see is the behavior of a simple reptile with only food, thermo-regulation, and survival on its mind!
Sorry if this makes no sense or is somehow offensive. Maybe just esoteric philosophy.
-Sam