im in the same boat my gf doesnt care for them but she does help. for instance she fed 4 snakes 2 times for me while i was gone. I jsut had to buy the 16 inch metal plier things lol which are amazing i might add. anyways I feel your pain though she gets over whelmed by them some times like my baby butter struck and hit her hand didnt bite her though and well thats the end of the helping she said LOL. but after 3 years of dealing with reptiles BD, to balls she is starting to actually come around. in the beginning she sounded very similar to your situation. good luck I agree with not pressureing or pushing it though, some people shut down.