Hey everyone ive read 4 books so far oldest one was from 1991 and the rest much more recent. But in the books they talk about popping hatchlings, and probing but if done wrong it harms the animal. But in the oldest book ive found it talks about the flap and their spurs. If they spurs are more curved its a male and more straight its a female, mine has straight spurs but the flap picture was small and black and white it was hard to see details. So im sure ive got a lady because the spurs are like pencils.