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    Re: Just wanted to see if anyone had some tips for me???

    Hi,

    Just one point I think might be worth making.

    Most threads are read in isolation. By that I mean when we work through the boards and see a question we think we can help with we don't go look at everything posted by the thread starter to see if they are a new keeper or someone who has kept them for 40 years, we tend to just give the best answer we can at the time.

    For a lot of us that includes putting in qualifiers and related information that turned out to be needed the times we answered similar questions before. This certainly can make it feel as though people are responding as though you were a "noob" when that was not their intent.

    The way that helps me deal with it is to simply take the information and the intention to help, thank them for that, and try and disregard any subtext or assumptions that I do not feel apply to me.

    When you next post a thread there is a better than average chance that the responders will not have read your posts in this thread explaining your level of experience or that you felt talked down to with some of the advice or questions.

    It helps if you can keep that in mind when you respond I find.

    As anyone who knows me will confirm my tounge is better suited to sandpaper than silk but since I know they are trying to help, when they really don't have to bother their backsides with me or my problems, I try and respond in kind.

    Not always succesfully mind you - but I try.


    dr del
    Derek

    7 adult Royals (2.5), 1.0 COS Pastel, 1.0 Enchi, 1.1 Lesser platty Royal python, 1.1 Black pastel Royal python, 0.1 Blue eyed leucistic ( Super lesser), 0.1 Piebald Royal python, 1.0 Sinaloan milk snake 1.0 crested gecko and 1 bad case of ETS. no wife, no surprise.

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