I'm almost 18, and my fiance is 19. It is my mother who has the problem with the snakes.
While I would like the wedding to be soon, we were hoping to have a somewhat fancy one, and so we are trying to save up for that.
I am still in school and under 18 so I'm not able to move out. My fiance receives 838$ per month from SS because of his schizophrenia, and because his father died when he was very young. He loses that if he gets a job and it is instead replaced with his actual income from the job--which, until he completes college, will be very little since it's minimum wage.
So the wedding probably won't be for 3-4 years minimum. I'm not sure how many apartments up here let people keep snakes, either.
My fiance is very supportive of the snakes, but he has a fine line to walk since my mom is allowing him to live with me in our house for a small rent fee per month.
I don't know what to do. I tried to talk to her earlier and said, very calmly, "I don't want to fight and I know you don't want to. Can we maybe plan a time to just discuss your concerns with the tubs so I can understand?" She said she has already told me her concerns and won't talk about it again. If she told me them, neither Max (fiance) nor I can remember.
I don't want you all thinking my mom is a bad person--she's not. Please don't think that. My mom is amazing, and we own SO many pets. I'm just struggling because I want to make this work NOW, since I'm worried with winter coming soon and it getting cold and all that, I want my snakes to be healthy.
However, my mom has issues too, and is stressed.
I just have no clue what else to do, if anything. Should I just let it go? I don't want to fight with my mom. I love her to pieces. But I don't think she is understanding what I'm trying to say, and she won't even talk with me about it, which is frustrating.
Shellie