Hi, You have gotten really good advice.
I was in a situation very much like yours. The thing is the control starts out very subtle. The whole making you feel bad about being the person you are is the start of it. Thats how you are made to give up whats important to you.Because in a sense he is telling you just being you is wrong and you need to change that. I had motorcycles and a dirt bike and when my ex moved into my house with me. He started on me about them and about me getting rid of them, and it was mostly due to his insecurities. He couldnt ride and didnt like the fact that it was a part of me that made me very independant. So I sold my dirtbike and 9 yrs after the fact I still regret it. He then started on my animals constently complaining about them, and getting to a point were he wasnt nice to them. The more I didnt do what he wanted the more frustrated he became and the worse it got for me and my animals. That was it and I got rid of him. You are a very independant women and there are people in this world who cant handle that. Well to bad is what I say. I have the best boyfriend in the world now.We have been together for 5 yrs. How do I know he is the best. If you saw half of the crazy shananagans I have put this man through from dragging him to the worst part of newark nj to save a 11yr old beagle that was gonna be put to sleep to building a huge turkey coop that he named the turkey taj Mahal in our yard. (mind you we dont live on a farm either). He wasnt a animal person when I met him but he respects that animals are what makes me the person I am. Thats the person he fell in love with. You need to not give up who you are for anyone.
Christine
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