Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[shescountry89]

Well I don't have the required lady parts to fit the bill with your thread title, but if he doesn't accept the things you love as legit then it could end up being an issue later on. This is a very young relationship, and it sounds like maybe you think things are going a bit fast. I learned a long time ago not to change who I am to suit your partner. Just ask my ex wife

Things are going way to fast for me, I'm not ready for it and I've tried explaining it to him but it's like it goes in one ear and out the other.

I could not stand being with my boyfriend every waking minute. And I've been dating him 3 years.

He needs to respect your passion, your hobby. Do NOT move in with him after two months. It sounds like he's a bit more controlling than anything.

You never should be happy or not. You feel the way you feel about something. It's something that can not be changed, trust your instincts.

Be yourself, and if he doesn't like that, kick him to the side of the road. There will be plenty other men out there that will respect your passion more, as well as who you are and how often you want to see him.

I told him that seeing eachother everyday wasn't a great idea, every other day would be just fine because it gives you time to miss that person. He says his ex he dated for 5 years almost lived with him and she was always begging to hang with him everyday. I told him I am not his ex, and not everyone is like that. I am trying to trust my instincts, it's just hard when I thought he was the first actual decent guy to come into my life.

I'm afriad that if I let it go, nothing is ever going to happen.

Dump him now. He's a controller. He doesn't want you to have the animals because they take you attention away from him. He wants you to move in with him so you will be in "his space", and therefor more under his thumb. He's already dictacting to you what you will and will not have and do. He already doesn't make you happy, he doesn't want you to do what you like to do, so why are you even bothering to ask other people?

Why should you be the "happiest girl alive"? Just becuase he said he wants you to move in with him? You don't need him. You are your own person, with your own goals and life, and just wanting to be with someone just because they are willing to say yes is no reason at all.

Dump him. He's treating you like garbage already, he's just doing it with a smile on his face.

Your right, I keep telling myself that I am happy. When deep down I really am not and it didn't hit me until tonight when he got upset that we couldn't hang out when we spent all day yesterday and the whole weekend together. He took me on a walk and talked to me about "commitment" and that he'd like it if I texted/called him more than I already do to tell him what I am doing during the day.

I am asking because I don't want to make the wrong decision and regret it, I told him straight up that I was not getting rid of any of my animals and had plans with what I wanted to go. He just thought it was funny because I was getting really defensive over an animal.