from what you said she might not "seek" it out, but you get her to hear it from other people by asking about the bps they have for sale. you know the normal run down when your looking to buy..... whats the weight, how often is it eating, whats it eating on.. etc that way she hears it comming from several people and your not the one saying it too her. she cant get mad at you for looking to buy a snake and asking about it.