Any therapists/counselors here??

[Vypyrz]

Id view this as a pre curser to what will come in the future.....

Who does that? Seriously

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[PyroPython]

Yeah. She admits it was pretty much the dumbest thing in the history of life.

[joepythons]

Welll, turns out she was playing some kinda game. Pretending to cheat to see if I cared? See my reaction?

Pissed me off. But, it's whatever. Whatever she's gotta do to trust me and my feelings before we get hitched I suppose.

Sorry to be blunt here.If she "pretended" to cheat on you.How are you sure it was just pretend? Maybe since you caught her she is trying not to lose you.My exwife thought i was cheating on her so she cheated.The day i busted her she was VERY shocked when i told her i NEVER cheated once.Word to the wise proceed with caution do not waste 11yrs on a skippy like i did .

[WingedWolfPsion]

Yeah, not buying that explanation....
Either way seems just as bad, to me. Hold out for someone sane, or you'll most likely regret it down the road. There are a lot of broken people out there, but they're not all broken.

[PyroPython]

She showed me her convo with the friend that suggested it. Timestamps all in order. And shes not one to lie. I believe her for the most part. Seeing how i have a child with her, its no time wasted to not have to deal with visitation.

[joepythons]

She showed me her convo with the friend that suggested it. Timestamps all in order. And shes not one to lie. I believe her for the most part. Seeing how i have a child with her, its no time wasted to not have to deal with visitation.

Hhmm if her friend suggested this i wonder for what reason .You say "you believe her for the most part",so something is still not right in your thoughts about it.If she is unsure how you feel about her and needs to pull a stunt like this i would be very concerned.I know its your decision but dont stay around just because you have a child with her.If the love is not mutual its a no win situation for either of you nor the child.

[kc261]

The child is the only reason I'd stay in this relationship. Whether she actually cheated, or pretended she cheated, both are pretty bad. And since you aren't married yet, get out while the getting is good would be my usual advice.

Since a child is involved, it is worth trying to save & improve the relationship. Find something that works for you, whether it be going to a counselor, using self-help type books, or whatever, but make sure you are measuring that by what WORKS, not what is easy or fun.

[PyroPython]

Yeah. The fact that she could make me believe she cheated hurt more than of she actually had. But, i do love her and i plan to try and make it work. If not, oh well. Im only 22 and the next one will be onto herps too lol.

It was a stupid stunt, but with her past of being abandoned and growing up in a childrens home, i can understand.

[mainbutter]

that "game" is not listed in the mac bible.... You might have a nut case on your hands here. Id view this as a pre curser to what will come in the future.....

Who does that? Seriously

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[chasingtime]

sorry you had to go through this...