Thanks everyone its really nice to have support of the bp.net crew. But in my family my "opinion" dosent matter..... they say they are tired of me telling them what to do but I feel what I am telling them is right and they are being his slaves in life. I really wish the situation was better but he thinks because he went trough a bad relationship with this ex that he had that he thinks he shouldnt have to do anything with the child. The mother of his ex has offered to take the child but my mom and my brother are 100% against it....... atleast thier it would be more normal than what is going on now. As I type this my mother is feeding the child and my brother is outside smoking a cigarette and playing beer pong..... its really sad. I hate to keep going on because I know that we all have our problems and we cant care about one persons misfortune.