i need advice.

[BPelizabeth]

Italian girls scare me. I am in a failing relationship with one. She is mean.

Yea .....I hate to say this but we don't play very fair. You can talk to my husband.....he will give ya some pointers on how to handle us...

Probably the only man I have EVER met that can handle me when I am mad. No wonder I married him....lol

He would probably tell you when we are in our element and "going off" mind you that includes alot of talking with our hands....just shut up and listen...and nod your head, always remain calm.

[withonor]

....just shut up and pretend to listen while you imagine that remote from the movie "Click" and wish you had one right about now...and nod your head, always remain calm.

Fixed that for you.

[BPelizabeth]

omg...too funny!!

I think my husband is like Oh YEA...no wait....of course not honey

[Lolo76]

So, is this an online relationship - or have you actually hung out in person? If it's only an online thing, I'd say cut your losses and move on. Sounds like she is trying to give you the brush-off, and probably isn't worth pursuing any further. How old are you, btw, and how long have you been dating her?

[bloodpython19]

So, is this an online relationship - or have you actually hung out in person? If it's only an online thing, I'd say cut your losses and move on. Sounds like she is trying to give you the brush-off, and probably isn't worth pursuing any further. How old are you, btw, and how long have you been dating her?

it is online.we're both 14,and we've been toghether about 4-5 months.why u wana know?

[Carusima]

Even being online, it has to be a real relationship. If she goes off and gets with some guy, she cheated on you, and you need to just leave her. My longest relationship of 3 years 4 months (I'm 19) was online, and we did get together in person when he could visit. Cancer was the only thing that tore us apart. I was 12-15.
Tim, who I am with now, I also met online. Which is why I'm in Texas and not in Cali where I am originally from. We've been together for almost 2 years, from the day we met in person, and have known each other for about 5 years. He's now my fiancee.

If you both don't treat an online relationship like how it would be in real life, it's not going to work and you just need to move on to someone who's not going to cheat on you.

[bloodpython19]

Even being online, it has to be a real relationship. If she goes off and gets with some guy, she cheated on you, and you need to just leave her. My longest relationship of 3 years 4 months (I'm 19) was online, and we did get together in person when he could visit. Cancer was the only thing that tore us apart. I was 12-15.
Tim, who I am with now, I also met online. Which is why I'm in Texas and not in Cali where I am originally from. We've been together for almost 2 years, from the day we met in person, and have known each other for about 5 years. He's now my fiancee.

If you both don't treat an online relationship like how it would be in real life, it's not going to work and you just need to move on to someone who's not going to cheat on you.

well im not the one cheating.i have turned down every girl that has asked me out.becuz i love her.i even spent $455.75 to have her name tatooed and outlined in rose on my arm.so she needs to hear this not me.and thanks for the advice

[BPelizabeth]

Oye...you tatoo'd her name on you...and you are 14??? Ur killin me!

I understand that at 14 it can be love....but you have so so much to look forward in your life. You have so many experiences to go through before you get too too hooked on one girl. You should have many loves over time...it helps you grow and helps you to become an adult.

Now I know you probably do not want to hear that at your age especially from someone my age. Lord knows....I sure did not want to hear it. But in all the years that I told my Mom..."whatever...like you know"....I hate to admitt but she was right every single time. Actually really made me angry still does drive me crazy that she was right. ANYWAYS.....talk to her ...say what you need to say and then my suggestion would be to move on. You have so many other things that need to be a priority in your life at this age.

And stop getting tatoos at your age....especially ones with names on them. Mind you I have tats....just when I was older!!

[kjinxx2]

I'd just like to chime in with a few words of advice (or encouragement at least):

First off, as was said before, communication is definitely the most important aspect of any relationship.

I personally am in a long distance relationship myself right now. Becky, my girlfriend, and I met roughly three years ago at a camp, I was 16 years old. Last year in early July of 2008 we began talking lots, like every day via text messaging. In August we started making phone calls, we called each other every night for at least two hours. I grew a strong interest in her and in October of 2008 I flew to Canada to visit her. Mind you, I live in New Jersey. In October we 'officially' started dating. Since last August we have missed a grand total of -zero- days from talking on the phone.

Some people think this is a little crazy, but I love her to death - In a few years we hope to get married

So, whats the point of this mushy gushy love story? Well so far it's been successful, so I figure we must be doing something right.

We talk every day, at 9:30pm I get a phone call which usually lasts 2 hours, some days I work late, so calls get delayed, but even a brief phone call is better than nothing.

I don't know if you're allowed, or if she's allowed, or if you guys have the money (I'm always very suspicious of meeting people online), but I see Becky roughly once a month. Either she flies here, or I fly (or drive) there. - 6 hours in a car isn't really that bad!

It sounds like either you have a job, or you have a way of getting your hands on money - from that $500 tattoo. I'd invest in a texting plan or something.

Anyway, you guys need to talk, thats it. If you talk to your teachers more than you talk to your girlfriend, there may be a slight problem

Good luck

Ken

[bloodpython19]

i am a farmhand in bargersville,IN.it is great money