Unbelievable Situation

[GoFride]

Alright, I'll make this short and sweet, because I'm enraged! One of my best friends broke up (huge, huge fight) with her live-in boyfriend and tried to get him to leave her house. Understand that the house is totally in her name. Well, it turns out that she can't do anything to get him out of there without going through this whole legal court process. An attorney (free consultation) told her it could take months. That's right - months! She can't get rid of him, she can't get rid of his stuff or even put it in storage. So he's still there, not paying a dime, and she's stuck with him. She doesn't have the money for the court fees, the attorney, filing the eviction notice, etc. Can you believe this?

[Lupe]

Really? How long has he lived there?

[iCandiBallPythons]

Honestly she has no one to blame but herself, She was the one who put herself in that situation.

[stormwulf133]

Honestly she has no one to blame but herself, She was the one who put herself in that situation.

And you always know when you start a relationship if it is going to work out or not? Well I guess, we should always know who we want to be with for the rest of our lives. No need for the dating process anymore. Woot.

[olstyn]

And you always know when you start a relationship if it is going to work out or not? Well I guess, we should always know who we want to be with for the rest of our lives. No need for the dating process anymore. Woot.

Well, to put it more gently than the above poster, when letting someone live on your property, you should have a lease, even if it says monthly rent is $0. That way it can be clearly detailed what happens in the event of a breakup. You have 2 weeks to find somewhere else to live & move out, etc. Failing to do that is what created this problem. My sympathies to the OP's friend, but she did fail to protect herself, and therefore it *is* her own fault.

That said, the (ex) boyfriend is being a less than decent human being if he's not making a reasonable effort to find a new place to live right now...

[GoFride]

He moved in with her about 7 months ago. You can go ahead and say it was her fault for not being cynical and suspicious enough to get a signed contract from someone she loved and trusted - I guess it just didn't cross her mind!

[iCandiBallPythons]

And you always know when you start a relationship if it is going to work out or not? Well I guess, we should always know who we want to be with for the rest of our lives. No need for the dating process anymore. Woot.

Nope your right, people dont always know when you start a relationship if its going to work or not but theres always plenty of time to figure that out before moving to larger steps. Alot of people (not all) are very quick to rush into things these days and honestly living with someone will put a whole different spin on things, as in the OP.

[Nate]

Honestly she has no one to blame but herself, She was the one who put herself in that situation.

no offense - but that is 110% garbage.

I've had a roommate that put me through hell. The legal system is definitely on his side in this situation, and it SUCKS.

It's SO easy to say you should have a contract - but the reality is, who really makes their boy/girlfriend sign an agreement? It's the right thing to do - but couples, based on what i've seen, just don't do that.

[Covington]

Maybe the older generations know what they are talking about when they say you shouldn't live together until you are married. Just kidding, but at least everyone reading this post can learn something from your poor friends situation.

[Nate]

sorry, but cant she file a restraining order against him fairly quickly?

i mean his stuff could still be in the house but bc of the restraining order he wouldnt be allowed in.. so he'd "probably" ask for her to leave it outside for him or something...and the problem will be solved, he's out. his stuffs out. and now she has the time to legally evict him or whatever

if hes not getting mail there in his name and hes not on the lease he doesnt live there and she can throw him out. Also if she feels threatend or in danger being around him she can file for the restraining order and get him out

I actually tried this on my roommate. Yes, he threatened me. Yes, I felt like I was in harms way. I went to the court house and was denied the initial restraining order and the appeal that I filed...because he hadn't actually done anything to me. He left me a voicemail (excellent evidence) - and it was still denied.

Sadly, a person has to be beaten before anything can be done about it