Huge problem, scared, don't know what to do...

[p3titexburial]

Can you sub lease or rent out wherever you're staying? If it's a 2 bedroom apartment (or even better, a house) you can rent a room (the one you're not staying in) out to college students (2 students per room) for a cheaper price than what the dorms and surrounding neighborhoods are charging. It should give you at least an extra 500 in your pocket every month.

Like everyone said, try everything you can. Check to see if your county laws allow you or your partner to baby sit, tutor for the SATS, ACTs or any other topic you're very confident in etc. These are all quick cash options but you should still be looking for a more long term and stable job.

I don't recommend bankruptcy--I don't even believe it should be an option because it will follow you for at least a decade and comes with all sorts of issues. Bankruptcy doesn't solve your immediate problem, which is to earn money, even if you do get it, without a job, you'll fall back into debt again and you can only file for it once. -shrug- that's my personal opinion though, so take it with a grain of salt.

[Argentra]

First off, thanks to everyone who's written so far. Having support in any form is very welcome and appriciated.

Now for some more info/clarification. Unemployment was denied because of how my partner lost his job. We were relying on that money, and were quite upset when they told us it was disqualified AFTER sending a letter telling how much he was going to be getting.
As for job applying, don't worry - I have no pride. I'm applying EVERYWHERE I can, from McDonalds to grocery stores. My partner is doing the same, though since he has two bachelors degrees he's hesitant about the really simple places.

Since we were taken in by my father and his girlfriend, we aren't TOO bad off for food and such. They don't ask for rent, just for help with utilities and food (when we can) and cleaning around the house. They won't let us be in the cold or starve, but they aren't that well off themselves financially so help will be needed soon in that regard.

As for feeding, I wouldn't feed them every single week during winter unless I had a constant ready supply of food for them. I'm already doing every other week, sometimes every third week to stretch what I did have. But now, I only have enough for one more feeding. If I must, I'll only feed the 4 females and put the males on an emergancy fast for the winter. Since my albino BP boy already seems to be going that route, and the other males are all nicely weighted, it shouldn't be too terrible. As it stands, though, I go through two small/medium adult rats, three weaned rats, and three rat pups a feeding - all FT. The females (two BP and two corns) take the 2 sm/md, 1 weaned and 1 pup. My youngest corn girl will be moving up to weaned rat soon.

Right now, my biggest money concerns are for the snakes food and the storage room payments since that's where all our stuff is. If we have to lose our cell phones so be it. It'll be tight while job searching, but they aren't a full need. Helping out with utilities and paying for storage are more important.

Oh, and to sweety314 - a PM will be forthcoming. Thank you!

It's hard to think those good thoughts, given certain mental issues, but we'll try. The kind words from all of you are a big help.

[Argentra]

Oh, and as far as selling the snakes goes...that would be a VERY last resort. They aren't only my pets, they're my therapy source. I might be able to part with two or three...but not all of them. I understand the thinking behind the suggestion, and would normally agree, but I can't part with them all.
And my sanity is rather important right now, since it's hanging by a thread as it is.

Thanks for the comments, though. I do appriciate it.

[Vilenica]

My suggestion is to setup a small colony of rats when some money comes along and in the long run it can cut the cost of food in half. For shortterm mind at ease taper your snakes off their regular feedings.

[GenePirate]

I have classes literally all day tomorrow (won't be home until almost 1700), but when I get back I'll look into whether I might be able to spare and can send some mice/rats to WA. What sizes are your balls and corns eating?

Hang in there!



RuLyn

Just to take this idea one step further, if someone can identify a rat/aspen supplier in the WA area, perhaps volunteers in the BP community could donate a bit of cash to an account, and that would help with supplies for awhile? Just throwing it out there....

[dc4teg]

well usually when someone is in need in the community i live in, churches usually help out but their taking a bad hit now also.... its sad, i really reccomend the national guard or something like that, and also blood and plasma donation is always good!

[Patricia]

So sorry to hear about your situation. Will keep you and your snakeys in my prayers. Lots of shoulders here for you to lean on.

[Big Gunns]

Big Gunns doesn't know who the genius was that opened the first storage facility was, but Big Gunns has got to give him(had to be a man) his props.

This is BG's suggestion. Sell that crap in storage. You have no need for it now since you have a place to stay..... you'll save that money.....and you'll have money from the sale. Once you get back on your feet you can buy all new/used stuff.

Also, as BG sees it you don't have many snakes. You could feed them for $60 bucks for the next 6 months, so stop worrying about that money. It looks like peanuts to BG...... unless he's missing something.

Now BG gives his tough love....which is exactly what BG thinks you need. Sorry, but BG "tells it like it is...or he just doesn't tell it". Go to BG's buddy(the mirror) take a long look at yourself and say. "I'm going out today and finding a job....any job". BG believes if you're persistent, and show possible employers you really want the job, you'll have a much better chance.

Having said all this, BG doesn't know your history, or have any clue what you look like(he doesn't want to know...just saying). While you're looking in that mirror....ask yourself. Would I hire me? You understand what BG is saying. If your nose is pierced, and there's a big tattoo on you cheek, it's gonna be harder to get a job.


Times are rough for everyone right now, but there are jobs out there if you want them. They may not be what you want right now, but they can help ends meet until you find a better job. To be perfectly honest Argentra, you may want to hear all our sympathy, but what you really need is a kick in the glutes to go out and "make things happen". Get mad(at BG if you want) and "just do it". You seem to be feeling sorry for yourself. You need to get rid of that attitude right here and now.

If everyone wants to get mad at BG...so be it. In Big Gunns opinion though, Argentra doesn't need our sympathy, he needs us to motivate him/her.

Good luck. BG hopes you're mad enough to listen. There's really only one person that can change your situation....and that's you.

[playingwithsnake_21]

you'll be preyed for every night,,, thats the best i can do, due to i was in the i same place as you not to long ago ,, just dont give up,,, and call the places you have applied at every day ,,, think positive every min, you doubt your self just once it will set you back mentally,, just remember we all here at BP.net are here for you all the way ...

im really sorry.

[h00blah]

Big Gunns

i dont think that was bad at all. =]. it seemed more like a motivational monologue than tough love

to argentra, follow BG advice! push it! WANT the job, don't NEED it! give THAT attitude to employers!

persistence DEFINITELY pays off! no pun intended


GL