ok, what I've already done, before I even posted, I had an extra 10 gallon and hood (she's only about 2 feet long maybe a few extra inches and about an inch and a half in diameter) I cleaned this tank and put down paper towels and but a heat lamp on her after rubbing her down with olive oil (as per the only suggestion I had at the time.) I took her 20 gallon and put it in the bathtub as well as both hides and the food dish (i threw out all the substrate and the fake plants and stuff, I'll buy new ones once she's healthy) I didn't have bleach but we used every type of chemical and cleaner in the house and sprayed down the hides and the dish and dumped it all over the inside of the tank as well, then boiled the kettle and dumped that all in the crevices of the tank and all over (where I put the cleaners) and all over the hides and the hides are in a tupperware container so we filled this with steaming water and the hides&dish are fully submersed...

because i had the extra tank I'll keep her regular tank clean and not put her back in until I have the provent-a-mite and have her mites gone.

I'm not at home right now but as soon as I get home I'll check her eyes and vent, I know that her scales are raised and I'll do the bath/massage when we get home, the only issue is how she doesn't like her head poked at and the scales on her "chin" are pretty bad like, bearded dragon bad, it actually kept me up last night thinking about it

Hopefully rubbing her down will help a little until the product gets here, I live in Newfoundland (an island in atlantic canada) so I don't know hoe long it will take it to get here.

thanks for the help.
I'll update later