What Should i do?

[pavlovk1025]

I like the suggestion of getting her involved in the hobby, maybe purchasing her one of her own little ones? I have a feeling that after she sees how great it is that she will be begging to get more.

AHHH! Totally great suggestion, the 09 Mojave girl that we just purchased was my wife's idea because she wants BELs, but now that it's here and so little and cute she loves it and is constantly checking the temps and everything, just waiting to do something. Nothing gets a woman hooked on something like kicking in her maternal instinct to take care of something. No offense, Im just saying.

[Shawn]

get rid of her and get another one, woman I mean not BP.. LOL

figure out what works best for you both . Remember there are options of friends helping out also.

and also remember there are options of using a couple of friends morphs when needed to produce some of the things you want

[Patricia]

So should i get another ball python. WHAT DO YOU SAY EVERYONE!

What have you decided to do? The compromise vs. control mentioned here is pretty spot on. I won't offer any suggestions, but will share our situation:

We've been married for 20 years, so hubby knows how much and how long I've loved snakes. He knows our finally getting one isn't a flash-in-the-pan whim. It was only a day or so after getting our BP when I discovered that he's afraid of snakes! (After he's had a 12 ft. python crawl over his foot while taking pictures of me and the kids with huge snakes.) Asked him why, then, he'd let me get one, and he said he's OK with having one around as long as it's secured away and he doesn't have to take care of it.

I think that's darn good of anyone who doesn't like snakes to let one come into their home. I don't have to look at his mess in the garage and he doesn't have to interact with Patriot until he's ready to. See, that's an example of a compromise that works.

Hope things work out well for you.

[k2l3d4]

So i love ball pythons and have 6 of my own but sometimes i wish i had maybe one more and ive thought about getting a pastel or a pinstripe that way i could make some killer combos with my spiders i have, but the problem is my girl wont let me get anymore she thinks i have to many and to me and im sure alot agree with me 6 just aint enough LOL So should i get another ball python. WHAT DO YOU SAY EVERYONE!

Hmmm... now see I am on the other end of the boat on this one.... My boyfriend has two adult sister normal ball pythons... now I currently have two male checkered garters, one female checkered garter, one male normal ball python and will be picking up a female spider ball python this weekend... and he thinks i am a bit crazy for having so many snakes... and to think that we are talking about moving in together soon which would brign the grand total up to seven snakes and three humans in one place... yeah, and I am getting the spider female to breed with my normal male in a few years when they are old enough... they are both 09 babies...

Now the answer to your question.. ... are you all willing to compromise on this? Do you live together? are you going to live together? Are you prepared of the aspect of having quite a few more snakes at once when you breed? I thnik that in the end... only you can make that decision.

[harm286]

Time was that I worked retail in a shop that was reptiles only.

Time and again I saw this scenario work:

Guy finds us and either already has snakes or starts to get serious about them.

Guy builds up a nice little group and is completely happy with them, see Guy all the time.

Guy starts coming around a little less. Then a little less.

Guy comes in with female human to show her The Snake Store he's always talking about.

Female human smiles, makes nice and leaves without becoming enthusiastic about Guy's friends, scaled or otherwise.

Guy comes in, not as often but still takes good care of his snakes. For about 2 months.

THEN Guy comes in and needs to sell his snakes because he "loves" this female human and wants to spend the rest of forever with her.

Guy is told that this is an oft seen scenario and he should not only think twice buy maybe even three times before getting rid of his snakes. Guy is told that once they come to the store, not only will he have to pay retail WHEN he wants them back, but that it is likely they will be sold before he realizes that he made an error of judgment.

Guy states again his "love'' for female human and sells his snakes.

About 4, sometimes as many as 6, months go by without seeing Guy at all. One day, Guy is back, looking sad and depressed, asking if any of his snakes are still in the store.

Turns out that the "love" of his life also loved the bartender at their favorite bar, the pool boy, the checker at the market, the mechanic, and the really ugly chick who worked at the butcher dept. at the grocery store that Guy no longer goes to.

Guy should have listened.

Guy and all the other Guys usually disengage all devices that comprehend common sense as well as advice from Men when it pertains to the "loves" of their lives.

We did get some damnfine snakes though.

Take this as a cautionary but VERY true tale.

I believe you should be a poet lol ... nice story though |||back to the thread|||
Besides that you are your own man, always keep the upper hand!

[h00blah]

try to share ur love of the reptiles with her, and maybe spark her interest in them. maybe SHE'LL get excited about owning another one.

[mrshawt]

Tell her you're getting another bp or a 18ft retic/burm. Her choice as to which one.

But really, I'd say respect her wishes if she means a lot to you. You can try to interest her in the hobby as others have said, but don't force her.

[Cassie25]

you just have to get her into caring for them and show her that they wont hurt her.. that was my big worry was that i want going to get bit but now that i know i wont im not that worried

[Jamie-n-Heith]

I guess I must be a lucky lady, my bf and I love all the pets we have (6 cats 7 tarantulas 3 BP's and a rosy boa) and if we had the space and money we would probably have more!!! if your girlfriend is not spending money or time on your hobby why shoud it both her??? You only live once man make the best of it

[jblaze]

I say respect your girls wishes.. or sell off some of the normals and get a few morphs.

Oh man, I am really starting to resent women these days. Everything for them is a problem, you need to do this, do it the way "I" want, buy me this, buy me that. She cannot stop you from buying another snake. How would she like it if you told her not to buy something she had a passion for and was really interested in?

It appears to me that you have already made your decision of buying another snake. I just hate when people try to stop you from doing something, it infuriates me. In all actuality, having resistance against a cause makes an individual want something even more.

Just get the snake man, if she doesn't like it tell her to get lost.

I have so many words for this topic but knowing my luck I will get another infraction.