Sellers, take care Kristy1277

[West Coast Jungle]

First of all Morphie I am so sorry you lost your fire, I have lost a cherished morph and it really sucks! You have my deepest sympathies.

As I read the thread one pattern I noticed was the empathy comments on the part of the younger folks and the reality of the situation comments from the older folks.

I think what we are seeing here is not a difference in appreciating goodness or empathy but one of lifes lessons that the older folks have dealt with many many times before. As older folks we try to teach the lessons of these experiences(not be critical as some are taking it) and unfortunately when people are emotional or hurt or frustrated they dont necessarily want to hear it.

Morphie, like me you like to do nice things for people and have had your good nature taken advantage of. I have lent friends cars, let them stay at my home, lent $ and other favors for so called friends.

I have also been disapointed when I needed a favor from someone I had done alot for and they werent intersted in helping. It stinks, it hurts, its life and you are now the wiser for it. Tuck that into your arsenal of lifes experiences and when a similar situation comes around, and it will, you will have another perspective to make your decisions accordingly. This process is something you should do with all your negative experiences, this is how we learn. Positive outcomes dont teach us much, its the negative ones that need all the adjustments, brainwork and where true lessons are learned. AKA "The School of Hard Knocks".

As a self employed business person one of the biggest things I have learned over the years is to make a decision, stick to it and move on. If it was a mistake, take responsibility, make the needed adjustment and move on. Dwelling on it makes you re-live it over and over again and as you see life will keep throwing things at you. Cant solve the next problem if you are dwelling on the last one. People who are in a rut are usually stuck in the dwelling stage.

Once again, this is much clearer to us older folks, so please dont take our comments as critical, but more as been there done that and wiser for it. (and hopefully still learning).

I am sorry you feel slighted, I am hopeful you are the wiser for it