one of my best friends (for 9 years) lives in alaska with her boyfriend of 6 years. they have to children together, 4yo girl and 3yo boy. she dropped the bomb on me that she's thinking of leaving him. as far as i knew things were great between them. apparently, there's a domestic abuse situation that she's been too embarrased to tell me about. i won't go into detail because i don't think it's neccesary.
so, she's all geared up to leave him. her family's been telling her to for years. she knows that it's best for herself and her children. every day, she has another reason why she's rethinking it tho... he said he might have esophogal (sp) cancer- which sounds alot like acid reflux to me. then he tells her, i'll change, i'll be better, blah blah blah. then last nite, she had to call the cops on him. he found out about her calling a help line and flipped out. his parents came over to get the kids while she was dealing with the police and his father said that she can go ahead and leave his son but he (bf's dad) will go ahead and adopt the kids.
christina is pry the best mom i've ever known. (besides allowing her kids to see their dad's tantrums) there's no way they'd get taken away. but this scares her enough to rethink leaving the :cens0r: i finally calmed her down and helped her see it from a legal standpoint, but i could tell she was still doubtful.
i gave her my mom's phone number along with some info my mom gave me about dif. programs and grants for d.v. victims. my mom has been thru every kind of domestic hell u can imagine, so christina is enthusiastic about talking to her because besides family, (and me) she hasn't really had anyone to talk to. so she's gonna call my mom and talk things out... after she eats dinner at his parents house and then goes to the movies with him!
sorry this is so long but it's SO frustrating for me! i've talked to her for at least 5 hours since tues. nite and it seems like everytime she sets her mind, him and his family say something to set her back again- his dad also has a heart condition, btw, and they don't want her to stress him out. has anybody else been thru this? i luv her so much and i hate seeing her hurting so much. but what else can i do besides what i've been doing?