is anybody else with somebody who has a child from a previous relationship? if so, how do you deal with his/her ex? matt has a 3 year old son, ben. ben's mom, jamie, is really grinding on my nerves lately. i just wrote out an explanation of what's going on, but it was way to long to post! lol. long story short, she's always acted like she's so much better at parenting than us. but last week, she saw our apartment for the first time in ben's life (we always have to make the hour drive to pick him up and drop him off) and saw that we aren't doing too bad for ourselves. all of the sudden, she wanted us to take him, as soon as possible, for at least a month. after she complained about us not taking care of him on the weekends(bull). she seemed really desparate to get rid of him. she's been jumping around from job to job (quiting cuz she doesn't like it) and from one apartment to another. and even when she does have her own place, she stays with friends all the time just for the hell of it. so ben never knows where he's gonna be sleeping any given night. eats nothing but junk food, drinks soda, which i think is not acceptable for a 3yo. expecially considering bad teeth run in the family. and he's constantly watching tv and never hears the word "no." according to her myspace page, she's always partying....

we love having ben and matt's really excited about getting him for so long. but when it's time to give him back, it's gonna be really hard. it drives me insane that jamie basically has the power to control our lives. the custody agreement says that matt can have him when it's "agreeable" to jamie. our place is a hell of a lot more stable than when he's with her, but unless we can prove her unfit, we don't have a chance in hell of getting physical placement. and i have a feeling that at the end of this visit, it's gonna end up turning into a custody battle.

i dunno... just had to blow some steam i guess. anybody else ever have problems like this? i don't want to seem like i'm trying to take her kid away from her or anything, but i think she needs to get her act together... i'm just gonna stop now. i think i've said enough for the moment....