Talked to an exotics vet yesterday. We got an xray to look for any calcification of kidneys or signs of bacterial infection in the bone. Nothing showed up besides constipation. Vet says that the hypercalcemia and the neurological issues are separate problems i guess. Right now we are on a regimen of warm baths twice a day (for defecation and rehydration) and antibiotics for possible bacterial meningitis. Waiting on the results of the IBD blood test. As of now our snake hasn't gotten any worse, but hasn't gotten any better. Will continue updating.
Neurological signs right now are individual eye movements (one eye is consistently looking down and sideways), not trying to flip himself over when put upside-down, and not moving his back half much when is tail is held. However, if you kind of scratch/tickle his back near his tail he does definitely react and move. One behavior that I don't know how to interpret is that when he is in the bath, he's tried to chew on the towel we use to keep his head elevated above water. When we lift his head up to avoid him getting his mouth snagged anywhere, he continues to adjust his jaw, or at least seemingly so.
According to the vet the main differential right now is IBD. I have two boas (kept separately) in the same room but moved the sick boy to the other side to try to get as much separation as possible. We haven't handled them at all and don't plan on it until we know more about what is going on. The only interactions we've had with them is spraying the terrariums and changing water, all after copious amounts of hand sanitizer and latex gloves.
Any comments/questions/ideas/suggestions are appreciated. Will keep updated as we go.